But of the 90% of the reported racial preferences, 89.9% are preferences for white people. Let’s not get heteronormative now; we’re only in the third paragraph.)Now, it gets tricky, because when a person sits down and says that they particularly want to date white people, they’re not thinking about the fact that the client before them, and the client after them, are saying the same thing.
They’re not thinking about the fact that this is a widespread phenomenon.
People are entitled to their taste and you can’t help who you fall in love with, right? Which maybe doesn’t sound bad, because I mean, they have other preferences, too. I’m talking about all my clients, only 55% of whom identify as white.
Height, religion, career paths, Netflix show most recently watched, the list goes on and on. (This seems as good a time as any to mention that when I say “all my clients,” I do mean clients of all sexual orientations.
Q: Are you saying that because I prefer to date [whatever race], I’m a racist? There are many situations that might not be explicitly romantic, but are nonetheless a lot like a first date. In short, “beautiful people” receive a lot of the same built-in benefits in our society that white people do. Beauty is a cultural idea as much as a physical one, and the standard is of course set by the dominant culture. One interesting thing about Ok Cupid’s interface is that we allow people to select more than one race, so you can actually look at people who’ve combined “white” with another racial description. In fact it goes a long way towards undoing any bias against you.
On an individual level, a person can’t really control who turns them on — and almost everyone has a “type,” one way or another.
Females exhibit stronger racial preferences than males.
So when I ask my clients who their celebrity crush is, they pick white people. I know it’s awful, but I’m just not attracted to black people.”Often, what I want to respond is:1) There are other races besides white and black.2) You’re not attracted to black people? You’ve met all of them, and not a SINGLE PERSON does it for you? Of course it Now switch the scenario and pretend it’s an employer, discussing who to hire (maybe replace children with interns? We’re comfortable (theoretically) with integrating our schools and workplaces, but we stop short when it comes, quite literally, too close to home. As Ward says, “You cannot control what you’re not aware of.But I do think the — that fact that race is a sexual factor for so many individuals, and in such a consistent way — says something about race’s role in our society. As a professional matchmaker, I’ve interviewed over 1,000 singles, and in the past two and a half years, I’ve made around 2,500 matches.It really felt like something had changed about the way America perceived and thought about race, and for at least that brief moment, the nation appeared united. For example, below are the numbers from Date Hookup, a site that we acquired a few years ago (but that still operates independently.) Date Hookup has a distinct userbase, a distinct user acquisition model, a distinct interface, yet their data reflects the same basic biases: While Ok Cupid is large enough that its demographics reflect the general Internet-using public, Date Hookup is a niche site particularly popular with Latinos and blacks (those groups comprise 13% and 20% of the site, respectively.) Other sites in our portfolio, with still different demographics and business models, show the same attraction patterns.
No less than Karl Rove captured the moment well: “an African-American candidate who was aspirational and inspirational…is very powerful. Q: Is it possible that some small number of users is throwing off the averages? For example, 82% of non-black men on Ok Cupid show some bias against black women.
As such, it’s different from a look at, say, unemployment numbers or test scores. the average.” Think of them as how people weigh race in deciding attraction.