"This is not intended to steal away our joy and make life miserable.
In contrast, a life of devotion brings inner peace, fulfillment, and the promise of better things to come in the future." 4. Does he use others merely as tools to get what he wants, or does he genuinely care about other people? My friend Gary Collins, a Christian psychologist, put it this way: "The Bible knows nothing of true Christians who are miserly, spiteful, habitually unforgiving, self-righteous, or arrogant. You can learn a lot about his discernment and what he values by looking at who he shares his time with.
If he can't pinpoint the time of his conversion, or at least the time frame in which it occurred, then it might not have ever happened. Is he counting on his good deeds, religious rituals, and winning smile to get to heaven, or does he describe coming to the point of recognizing his sinfulness, turning from his own path in life, and receiving Christ as his forgiver and leader?
He saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy, says Titus 3:5. When he talks about the future, is there room for God? Does he talk about seeking God's direction for his life?
Genuine Christianity is a way of seeing and comprehending all reality." Does this individual see an artificial separation between his spiritual life and the rest of his existence, or is his faith integrated into all areas of living? Is he quick to candidly admit when he has made a mistake or does he try to justify his actions even when they were clearly wrong?
Does he recognize and apply the Bible as the foundation for his whole life? Does he gloss over his own sinfulness or blame others for things he did?
"It does not involve putting ourselves down and wallowing in insecurity or self-pity.
How does he treat the less fortunate in our society? Does he have a sense of social justice that makes him want to see conditions for the poor improved, or is he uncaring or even cynical about those who have less than he does? Does he forgive those who hurt him or does he enjoy nursing a grudge and plotting revenge? Do not be misled, says 1 Corinthians , Bad company corrupts good character. Does he care about bringing the Gospel to those who haven't heard it?
Perhaps these questions have even raised concerns about some areas of your own life that you need to address before God.
In any event, raising these issues can help us diagnose the general condition of the other person's Christian life.
What a person feeds his mind is what he will eventually become.
As Paul urged: Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.Seemingly small acts of dishonesty often reveal the true state of a person's heart. but actually a person's worldview is intensely practical," said Charles Colson.