So we decided to create a disabled dating site that really wants to help disabled people find love..Disability Matches was born!
There are many reasons why the online dating bug has bitten the disabled community. Online dating is growing in popularity and as it grows in numbers, it becomes more effective due to better search results and more possibilities for offline dates.
I was browsing through some links on Twitter last night, and I saw one about a “diabetes ‘dating service'”.
My first thought was, “Not this again.” I checked out the link, and it was actually about a program to link diabetes researchers with people who actually have diabetes (which is apparently a bigger problem than most people think it is).
There's friendship, companionship, happiness and love out there for all of us, regardless of our imperfections.Knowing what I do about online dating now, I feel now like I walked away from the online dating website having more in common with your average able-bodied online dater than the guy who’d had the stroke to whom I’d been talking – there are a lot of people out there who have gotten involved with someone on an online dating website and had them get way too serious way too quickly – like say “I love you” after three emails. And the one guy that I did meet, admittedly not on one of the more major dating sites, but on an advice site associated with it, who’d also had a stroke at an early age – we’ve been long-distance friends for three years and we rarely talk about stroke stuff. Now, I’m not saying that there isn’t a place for an online dating web site just for people with disabilities.I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – there’s nothing wrong with people preferring, and choosing to try to find, the company of other people who share their experiences.And that’s why I never went back to the dating site for people with disabilities.
Because, good or bad, I’m more than just someone who had a stroke.I’ve had to fight hard to get people to see that, and going back to a dating site that encourages people to look at me first as a person with disabilities feels like a step back.