Everyone’s path will be different, but no matter what, having a picture of what high self-esteem looks like, and how it can play out in relationships, is helpful and can help reveal the areas you may need to work on.
Having high self-esteem doesn’t guarantee a happy relationship, but it does equip you with the skills to identify what you want and realize you deserve to get it, and the strength to walk away if something falls short.
Self-esteem doesn’t come from blowing kisses to your reflection in the mirror or repeating “I love myself” over and over.
It takes time and it takes work and it isn’t always easy.
She may obsess, analyze, and replay every interaction in an attempt to uncover what she did wrong. Healthy personal boundaries and high self-esteem go hand in hand.
She may know on a conscious level that it simply wasn’t a match, but deep down she holds on to the destructive belief that she was the problem…and that she is unlovable and the guys she wants will never want her back. Having strong boundaries means you prioritize your needs and your emotions and do not assume responsibility for someone else’s needs and emotions.
The fact is, you can only let in as much love from the outside as you feel on the inside.
Confident women know what they will and will not accept and don’t allow themselves to be pressured or guilted into doing things they don’t want to do.
They act in accordance with who they are and what they believe and don’t cater their behavior for a guy, or do things solely to keep him interested and happy.
If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never truly believe that someone else can love you and you will constantly be on the lookout for the other shoe to drop, for the guy you care about to leave, thus validating the fact that you are unworthy of love.
Poor self-worth is what traps us in bad relationships, what sabotages new relationships, and what causes us to feel so devastated and broken when a relationship ends.Instead, they assume he likes them and are able to be present in the relationship and enjoy it without being weighed down by fears and doubts. Confident people realize if a relationship falls apart it’s because it wasn’t right, not because they did something wrong.