But, if you don’t know how to define and maintain your personal and relational boundaries, you’ll be in serious trouble.That was the topic of my last article, concerning living with paper fences.My birthday was two days ago and he was well aware but chose to not even say Happy Birthday.It hurts but knowing I will only feel worse if I confront him, and cripples me from speaking to him. This woman is living in an extremely difficult situation.
You can learn to pray and laugh together, and that certainly will have powerful results.
His intimidation, belittling and yelling have done just that--paralyzed her.
Like dealing with the bully in the sandlot, cowering and living in fear simply gives them more power over us.
A woman writes: I have a fear of communicating with my husband.
In the past two years when I've tried to communicate, he has belittled me, yelled, told me he doesn't care how I feel and that he doesn't love me.
Let me remind you of a couple of facts: • God is the author of boundaries—defining the world with boundaries; • He established boundaries on what He would bless, and what He would not bless; • He made each of us unique, with different talents, skills and possibilities; • We have different family backgrounds, values, beliefs and preferences; • It is our responsibility to define our personal and relational values, and reinforce them. Too many people think they can tell others how to live, or that others should automatically respect their preferences.